Monday, January 31, 2011
Babies.
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Run.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Autism.
Friday, January 28, 2011
Tina.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Sabrina.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Q & A
Any I always get confused about lizzy. Her bio dad is the one she likes but has no rights correct? and the legal dad is a druggie? and do both "dads" have visitation?"
We NEEED a Moms Night Out!"
I know you think this, but once again it seems like nobody, but you, is concerned about the welfare of the child that has to be moved again."
Monday, January 24, 2011
Weekends.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Questions.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Exodus.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Chaos.
Monday, January 17, 2011
Puke-a-palooza
Friday, January 14, 2011
Crazy.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Lizzy.
To Whom It May Concern: January 12, 2011
We hereby officially turn in our two-week written notice for removal of our placement of "Lizzy".
Over the weekend of January 8-9th we have had several things come up (along with things that have happened in the past) that have made it so we will no longer be able to care for "Lizzy".
Over the weekend we were notified that our baby sitter would no longer be willing to watch "Lizzy" due to her extreme behavior and I also was made aware that I will be needing to put in more hours at work so I will no longer be able to maintain the visits that Lizzy is currently having with her mother and father.
If it were only these two things we would probably be able to figure something out, but we are also dealing with a lot of behavior issues from "Lizzy" that have made it so that we are not able to function in our normal life as we used to. We have gotten to the point where we are not able to go places and do thing with our extended family or just as we normally would for fear of her going into one of her rampages.
For example, just yesterday I was over at my sister’s house with all the kids. Everyone was playing and having a good time. I told "Lizzy" she could not do something and she started screaming and walked over to a chair and started banging her head on the chair seat. A few minutes later I told her to give a toy back to someone that she had taken it from and she then walked over to a toy bike and picked it up and threw the heavy bike. This is not the first time she has done this, it is the latest of MANY times she has done these things. She is getting more aggressive in her anger and is throwing bigger things. My husband and I have too many nieces and nephews around, let alone the children in our own home, to have her throwing big objects around all of them and also displaying this crazy behavior that some of them are picking up on and trying out. She is the only one that we have not been able to get to stop this behavior.
Just as I was typing this letter I had to go clean up a glass bowl that she got out of my cupboard and threw on the ground and shattered. At first it sounds like “lack of supervision” but you cannot keep your eye on a child 24/7 and these things literally take 30 seconds to do. She also threw toys at our main TV so much that she broke something inside it so now there is a red line across the top of the screen. It was a $1500 TV.
If it was just the baby sitter or just a few more hours at work or just throwing fits or just destroying our property we could probably deal with it, but when you lump it all together it is not something we are able to do or want to do at this time in our lives.
We request that you have "Lizzy" removed from our home at the latest by January 31st, 2011.
Now, to be completely honest I did not have a baby sitter that gave us "notice". I personally, do not even like leaving her with ANYONE because she is so out of control. The only person that I truly trust to watch her is my sister and that is only because she knows how I am with her and does the same. I don't know what the problem is, but now Lizzy is acting like she doesn't like my sister and won't listen to her either. So, I am left with really no really baby sitter but no one "gave me notice".
As far as work goes, I work for myself from home running a business that my husband and I started 5 years ago and Lizzy has been a HUGE hindrance to me running it like I used to. I know that I need to get that back under control and be able to function like I used to and I cannot while caring for Lizzy.
Everything else is completely true. I had myself all fired up to defend our decision once I told her worker, but when she called today and I told her that I had put the notice in her mailbox yesterday she acted like she didn't even care. She didn't ask me anything at all about why or if there was anything they could do. She hadn't even read the letter yet.
I was all ready with my stories about how I took her on a field trip with my son's class and she was totally out of control and unless I let her wander around and get into everything she would start screaming.
I was going to tell her how I had to photograph my aunt's wedding and she wouldn't even sit nicely for 2 minutes during the ceremony and my mom had to basically wrestle her the whole time in the back.
I was all ready with my stories and she didn't ask ANYTHING, which is best for me, but I am surprised.
When it came down to it, her case is just a mess and it would make every hour of my life easier to NOT have to deal with.
A lot of you mentioned that you had either seen or experience exceptions being made to this rule. IF Lizzy was the "adoptive" placement that they told us she was we would peruse something like that - BUT SHE IS NOT. There is NO reason to believe that she will not be returned to her mom in 6 months and now that she is spending more time with them she is getting worse and worse in her behavior.
Another problem is that Joseph had another family through our agency that was going to adopt him, it didn't work out but in the end there was a problem with them taking a placement that made it so there was no room for him (like what I have going on here right now) and I am not willing to risk that messing up things for our Joseph. Everyone on this case HATES our adoption worker, all they need is an excuse to be done with her...I just won't risk that. My job is to make MY kids a priority and it is LIZZY'S parents job to make HER a priority.
So, really, we decided to have her moved based on her behavior and all the crazy visits that are just getting to be more and more and I truly cannot keep up and still take care of my son, my JOB and the rest of my life.
I will miss her terribly, but I will NOT miss all the reasons that we decided on this.
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Adoption
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Christmas.
Going from a family of 4 to a family of 7 (even if only for a few days) did not come without HUGE road bumps in the road, it was quite the adjustment, but we would do it all over again.
Monday, January 10, 2011
Makeover.
Friday, January 7, 2011
Note.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Why.
1. For every social worker who has made me doubt the system there has been a child that filled a spot in my heart that I never knew existed.
2. For every tear I have ever cried over foster care there has been a giggle from a child that has made me smile from ear to ear.
3. For every "bad" decision that had been made in court there has been a holiday that I got to celebrate with my precious kids.
4. For every behavior that has made my head spin and my temper flare there has been a cuddle that my arms would have ached for had it not happened.
5. For every visit that has been less than ideal there has been a sloppy kiss that has meant the world to me.
6. For every child that has left there has been another that needed me just a little more than the last.
7. For every piece of ridiculous paper work that had to be filled out there has been a tight hug around my neck that let me know every bit of it was worth it.
8. For every court hearing, home visit, and random appt. I have had to deal with there has been a day of silly games, dress up and days at the beach to make up for it.
9. For every minute of stress and heart ache there has been literally double the amount of minutes spent thanking God for asking me to do THIS, even when it hurts.
10. For every risk that we took when we stepped into this there has been a reward that far out weighted any risk.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Favorite.
She did apologize when I came back but still, my day is not all about this visit. Is it too much to ask that I know what the plan is THE DAY BEFORE THE VISIT.
People are something else, everything is all about whatever they come up with that day.
Oh, and apparently, Lizzy's social worker that I just love so much apparently put in her two week notice. I would say that is a long over due move.